We have a choice. To keep letting ourselves be distracted by the digital noise around us. For the constant need to know more. For 'FOMO'. For letting our worries get the better of us.
Or we can decide to tune in and pay attention to what really matters. To appreciate what we have. For its simplicity and for what is real.
I have allowed myself to become too distracted. And it hasn't made me feel happy. But often lousy as I compare myself to others and what they are achieving, or the exciting lives they appear to be living. Rather than tuning into my own life and appreciating what I have.
I've also used distraction like my phone and social media, Instagram in particular to zone out. Mindlessly scrolling through my feed before I drift off to sleep. But it has the opposite effect. Zoning out can be better achieved by zoning in to what is real. And what uplifts us.
For me it's my family. The remarkable moments, as well as the mundane. It's being in nature. For the beauty that when I still my mind, sings loudly. For the simple moments that are often easily overlooked, but if we pause to notice them they fill our lives with complete joy.
In March 2016 my mother commit suicide. Since then it has made me question what is important, and what isn't. It has taken a while to process my thoughts. But I'm on my way to understanding them more. Until they don't, and that's OK. Life is a bit of a roller coaster in that way.
Through tragedy and sorrow comes a little bit more knowledge and resilience. And despite sadness we can seek happiness and move forward in our lives with optimism. Focus on what truly matters. And what makes for a more fulfilling existence in this fleeting life of ours.
The fact is that we will all die (one day) and today is worth noticing. It's worth it for our happiness. And for those we care so deeply about. They want us to be happy. They want to feel happy when they are with us.
I've thought about those last few days that I'm alive, if I'm conscious and aware of what is to come. I won't care about material possessions. Investment properties. Shiny cars. The coffee machine I'd prefer over the one I already have.
While of course those things I admire, and at times they make life easier. I know deep down they won't bring true happiness.
All I imagine and hope is to be with my loved ones and reminisce of our time together. Remember the feelings I felt when we experienced life together. The simple moments. Laughter, cuddles on the couch, and looks of complete pleasure over a home-cooked family dinner.
I imagine observing their facial expressions as they begin to understand the reality of life. And I'll tell them that beauty is all around them. To stop running so fast, slow down and appreciate the simplicity of it.
For appreciation can fill our lives with contentment.
It's my hope to inspire. To share my knowledge on how to live simply. And encourage looking at our lives with a greater appreciation. To be kinder to ourselves and others. For the benefit of our own happiness and those we care so deeply about.
Because after all, isn't life so much more enjoyable when we feel happy?