Opening our doors to friends and family and gathering without prior planning can be difficult. Especially if you are one who likes your home looking immaculate before they arrive. It's something that I have always felt quite anxious about and I'm practising myself. And I'm slowly getting better at.
It can be freeing to let down our barriers and welcome spontaneity into our lives.
There is something rather nice about our guests feeling welcome enough to pop in to our home unplanned. And for us to feel comfortable with them being a part of our lives for a little while. I often feel so pleased to see friends come sit with legs folded on our living room floor, or a picnic blanket in our backyard with a coffee or tea in hand. I sense an ease in them and desire to be here. And it makes me happy.
So how can we embrace this more?
Letting go of perfectionism for a start. It's not easy to do. But in doing so we could potentially feel more at ease. The more we bring down the front of life being perfect and let others see our true selves, the happier we could be and the deeper our friendships become.
Yes the floor may be dusty. We may have clothes and kids toys strewn about the house. But that's life isn't it? A home accommodates life as it is actually lived. Dirt and all. And those good friends or family members will understand and barely notice.
I laugh when I think back to a time when my father visited my grandparent's home unplanned. He needed to use the toilet and my tiny grandmother ran to the toilet and barricaded the entry. The poor thing was embarrassed that she hadn't given the toilet a once over before my dad arrived. I guess at the least perhaps clean the main toilet often! But really in reality, it's no big deal and those true friends won't judge us.
The more we welcome good friends and family into our homes, the more connected we could potentially feel. And could feel a greater sense of belonging which is so important in a society that is a little disconnected.
Welcoming spontaneity does get easier. And we soon begin to realise that all that anxiety over things being perfect is actually quite unnecessary.